By Shontres Miller
Many of you have experienced this scenario. You have not seen your loved ones in many months, and you think to yourself: “Mom/Dad/Aunt/Uncle/Sibling doesn’t look so good!” Maybe slower to get up, or slower to converse and react, but definitely noticeable decline. Visiting aging loved ones during the holidays can be a wonderful opportunity to reconnect and create cherished memories. However, it can also be a time of concern and anxiety, especially if you notice changes in their physical or cognitive health. Here are some tips to help you navigate these visits and make the most of your time together:
- Communicate and plan ahead. Before your visit, communicate your plans and schedule. Discuss their preferences and limitations to ensure they are comfortable and not overwhelmed. Consider their energy levels, dietary needs and any mobility restrictions.
- Set realistic expectations. Accept that they may not be the same people they were in the past. Be patient, understanding and flexible. Focus on enjoying the time you have together rather than on making everything perfect.
- Be mindful of their physical needs. Ensure your loved ones have a safe and comfortable environment. Help with tasks like preparing meals, doing laundry or running errands. Encourage them to rest when needed and don't overschedule activities.
- Engage in meaningful conversations. Take time to talk to them about their lives, their interests and their memories. Share stories of your own and ask them questions to keep them engaged. Avoid sensitive or stressful topics that might cause anxiety or upset.
- Create new traditions and memories. Engage in activities that everyone enjoys, such as playing games, watching movies or reminiscing about old times. Consider starting new holiday traditions that you can continue in the years to come.
- Be patient and understanding. Aging can be a challenging process, and sometimes it can manifest in ways that are difficult to handle. Be patient with your loved ones and try to understand their perspective. Avoid criticizing or nagging and focus on providing support and encouragement.
- Cherish the moments. The holidays are a time to cherish the moments we have with loved ones.
- Involve other family members. Encourage other family members to participate in the visit and share the responsibilities. This can help reduce your own stress and provide additional support.
- Many of these scenarios can create added stress in your life. It’s very important to remember that you also must take care of yourself during this time. Make sure to get enough rest, eat healthy meals and find time for yourself to unwind and relax.
Written by Shontres Miller, co-owner of Beaches Home Care. “We Come To you with Care.” 904-325-9086
